…OR “The Steps I Took That Led You Here”



I consider the crest of my business journey to have been when, through a generous investor, my company produced an r&b concert (with indoor carnival games and carnival acts).Through that experience, I learned a lesson in delegation.

I had hand-picked a team whom I was not allowing myself to fully trust to do their job. My interpretation of the expectations of the investor was to have my hands in everything, thus not using the full capacity of my team.

As the concert neared it was evident that this was a problem. The investor asked an old friend who produced corporate shows to assist with day-of logistics, yet she helped with even more. After speaking with me, she shared that I was the problem – I had to delegate. So I delegated. I went from being vague about the needs and the vision, to being specific. I essentially created parameters that freely allowed my team to do the work that was needed.

Logistically the concert was flawless.

The audience saw the show we wished existed, and now did.

After moments like those, one is expected to take advantage of the momentum. I did not. 


I did not know where to take the momentum train. I had the fuel, but no track. I found myself becoming frustrated with my team again. I knew something was not working, but it could not have been their fault. I realized that people were not doing what I needed them to do because I provided no finesse of incentives or end goals. I offered no clear expectations or plans.

I aligned my value system with my work style and created a space of ultimate democracy as if the success of my company was the responsibility of everyone. 

What I felt was a disorganized company, was actually disorganized leadership.

While it was perfectly fine for me to be motivated to move forward without a clear vision, it was an ineffective leadership strategy. My personal flow was not fit to align to a team.

I “hired” a permanent team long before I or my business was ready. I thought that was what I was supposed to do to declare that I had arrived.


What I never took for granted was that these people believed in me. I could not let myself and those people down by running a shoddy agency. When something is not working I believe you have two choices, you fix it or let it go, in this case I did both. I let go of my business as it was then structured and functioning and decided to fix it, by firing everyone.


When I fired everyone, I did not have a plan. I just knew I needed to free myself from the burden of leading others in order to surpass the potential that everyone saw. I took over a year to plan, and I am still planning. I (mostly) unapologetically gave myself all of the time I needed to plan. meditating dogI thought of what I had learned from 3 years of being in business. I identified what was missing and what I needed and planned for that.
I planned to fill the holes in places I had never considered.

I gave myself the space to dream and identify what I truly wanted.

And planned for that. I forced myself to plan to apply all that I had learned from building a business by chance. 


There are always going to be competing obligations in life. I had to make decisions on what was the most important to me within a given time frame.

I had to decide on what was arbitraryMeaning, what were the things that I created false deadlines for? Had I assigned timelines that introduced unnecessary stress? Yes? Let it go.

I also had to decide on what was immediate and pressing. Was I responsible to things with actual deadlines that impacted my future success, or health, or happiness? Yes? Handle that. Now.

Lastly, I identified the long-termI asked what was I crowding into the “immediate” place that could be addressed later? What can I prepare for now so that I will be ready in the future? Plan now. And do that later.

Prioritizing freed me from the guilt of mediocre outcomes and allowed me to prepare for excellence.

 I began making decisions with myself in mind instead of others. This would then allow me to bring others back into my orbit so I can help or guide or coach later. Until I made decisions for me I was unable to truly help others. Leadership is prioritizing the difficult choices.


With multiple competing priorities that must be addressed within a time frame, I had to identify when I was ready. My assessment of readiness did not always align with others. The roll out of my plans, did not fit to other’s schedules of when they needed me. But I decided I had to pace myself. For far too long I realized that I had overwhelmed myself with “yes”. Saying yes to everyone but me had me burnt out. The fear of completly losing my spark forced me to move forward at my own pace.


I feel like I was awakened along the journey.

The quest to re-vision my business became a quest to find myself.

I questioned where I fit into this business that largely served others? How would my work ultimately fulfill me. What was it that I could always do that would challenge me and help others? What did I do so much better than everyone else and what new skills was I willing to master?

The self-reflection allowed me to open myself up to others. I actively placed myself in places where I could learn from people I admired. I opened up myself and shared my vulnerability and asked questions. I decided to become a seeker rather than a doer.


I did what made me uncomfortable. I am not naturally a person inclined to seek help in areas that I believe I should already have mastered. I pushed myself to allow others to opine about aspects of my life. I pushed myself to trust other people’s expertise and experiences with the same respect as I do my own. But I also allowed myself the opportunity to reject. Just because I made the decision to push myself in the direction of others, did not mean I had to accept what they offered. Giving yourself the option to say no is powerful.


A plan prepares for the future which one has no true control. Yet, having a plan allows you to flourish because there is direction. Decide to find your way.



2 Comments on Re-visioning Your Business

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    January 8, 2017 at 10:54 am (1 year ago)

    Excellent blog! Do you have any suggestions for aspiring writers?

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    • elletee
      January 10, 2017 at 11:48 am (1 year ago)

      Starting with a free platform decreases risk. There are so many free platforms with great design and navigation options. At this point you don’t know how successful your blog will become (consider what your goals are to measure that success). If you end up needing the robustness of a paid platform, you can always transfer your content to that platform.


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